Monday, July 10, 2017

Question of the Week: Sperm Donor

Miro (pictured) is on a website as a sperm donor for couples wanting to have a baby.  He is quite handsome and I am sure that he would make an excellent donor.



About two years ago, I was approached by a lesbian couple who asked me to consider being a sperm donor for them.  Part of me wanted to do it, but they were planning on moving away and I would not have any on going contact with the child, so I declined.  I felt that if I did something like that, I would want to be a part of the child's life.  It was a difficult decision for me to pass on that because they would be great parents.  (I can tell you that after they moved to the West Coast, they were able to find a donor and the baby will be born in December.)

The Question of the Week is:

"Would you consider being a sperm donor?  Would you want to know about the child and be a part of his or her life or would you rather be anonymous if you did do it?"




15 comments:

  1. If I had any viable swimmers, sure. Sadly, a severe case of mumps fried my balls. That was followed up by Scarlet Fever, which ended any chance.

    Had I passed the initial tests, I don't think it would matter to me to be part of the child's life. All I would want to know is if the kid was well cared for. Beyond that...probably not. Is that selfish?

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    1. Not at all. I think that is a very honest answer. It could be more confusing for the child at some point, so I can see the benefit of staying anonymous. Most couples (and some single women) going through something like this really want a child and you can rest assured they want to be great parents.

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  2. [love the way whkattk calls sperms: swimmers]
    Me not. The couple, in Italy, might ask for financial help, making me recognize my paternity (DNA test). In that case, the judge would recognize me as biological father by obliging me to help my son. Obviously I would not have any contact and no educational responsibility with this child. So: twice no!
    Is mine an egoistic attitude? May be, but I do not care!

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    1. No, that is being realistic with what could happen down the road. Thanks for sharing! (And I did like the swimmers comment too!)

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    2. I could enrich the word with
      tailed swimmer

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  3. I would not mind being a sperm donor. As such I definitely would want to be part of that child's life. If a man is asked to donate his sperm in order to create a new life he should not be asked to provide for his/her education, Unless the man wants the responsibility. Generally speaking an unmarried woman who wants to have a baby will ask a man to donate his sperm, and once the action is done that is basically the end of it. A very interesting subject to discuss dear Gabriel.

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    1. It really is a business transaction in many ways and that should be the end of it. I have heard that sperm banks do limit how many women can get the same man's sperm so the chances of siblings meeting and not knowing are minimal. I had never thought of that until I saw a special on it.

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  4. Welcome back, Tony. We hope you and "P" had a lovely vacation.

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    1. This is an interesting topic.
      Personally, I couldn't be a sperm donor anonymously through a sperm bank. I'm not sure that I could do it if I was asked by someone I knew....so many things would have to be talked over with Bryn. I suppose I am too old fashioned to comment on this one....I grew up in a Norman Rockwell painting. I am the youngest of 14 and family is so important to me that if I had a child I would need to be involved.

      Bruce-"the old fogey".

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    2. I agree there is a difference between an anonymous donation at a sperm bank and helping someone you know personally out. That was my dilemma. I wanted to for the couple, but I just could not go through with it. While I felt terrible about it, they totally understood my reasoning. I don't think you are an old fogey!! LOL!

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  5. Gotta agree with you, that child (or those children) will be most probably as good looking as he is, or even more! :)

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    1. He is definitely a hot guy who would make some pretty babies!

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  6. Thanks Bruce and Bryn. P and I had a great time. Hopefully will repeat it in late August. Right now I am busy getting ready for the big move early August. I am going into a high rise apartment building. I also own another unit in a building nearby that I rent out.

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    1. Where is the big move taking you?

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    2. Another question would be....
      Is there room for "P"?

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