Monday, November 21, 2016

Question of the Week: Boundaries


The Question of the Week is:

"Do you think it is possible for a couple to invite a third into their bedroom for sex and it not have any effect on the couple's relationship in a negative way?  Do you think it can be healthy for a relationship?"


10 comments:

  1. I know monogamous couples and orgiastic couples! what can work for a couple, can't fit to another couple! It depends on everyone and every couple!

    I'm sure you'll enjoy my last post:
    http://menforxersex.blogspot.it/2016/11/right-step-bon-pas.html

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    1. I agree with you that what works for one couple may not work for another. It really does go on the makeup of those involved. I have been with a guy and we invited a third to join us on a couple of occasions. I cannot say that was a reason for our breakup, but I don't think it was helping. Thanks for sharing and I will be sure to check your blog out tonight.

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  2. I agree that it depends on the couple. An ex and I enjoyed it very much. For me, it's a massive turn on to watch the man I love get fucked by someone else, or to top someone else. However, my current S.O. just isn't into threesomes or group play. It's just not his thing and never will be. We are "monogamish," so I can still play outside of our relationship. Just not together, alas.

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    1. That's great that he is not bothered by you playing some on the side and that you are honest with each other about your feelings on the subject.

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  3. Oh, yes, and yes! But then, I'm an eternal optimist. It probably works best if you're in a perfect relationship to begin with, and neither one of you has any major insecurities. (But how many people can honestly say that?) For what it's worth, it's also a major fantasy of mine to watch another hot guy fuck my boyfriend. But I haven't actually had a boyfriend often enough to put the fantasy into reality very often.

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    1. Keep me posted when you get to turn that fantasy into a reality...and take photos! LOL!

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  4. A great sex life is fantastic and we should do all that we can to achieve it. That being said, for this scenario to work, the couple has to be truly in love with each other. A strong relationship has to be built on love, trust, honesty, and the willingness to put the other first. If you can make it work then I say "Go for it!" You should love your sex life and revel in it.

    We know a couple that has others join them for sex. The rule that they follow is if either of them has any qualms at all then the third person is no longer in the picture. As they say, they are ready to give it up for the sake of their partner and their marriage. For them it works. They have asked Bryn and I to join them. Our answer is "No thanks." There are no hard feelings. In fact they are among our closest friends. It was even a little flattering to be asked to be friends with benefits. However, the man I married is my life. I couldn't bear him with another man and I couldn't live with myself if I had sex with someone else. That's just us; a happy gay couple that may not be all that sexuality liberated after all.

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    1. As long as you two put a smile on each other's face, then why bring a third into the mix.

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  5. If both parties are open and stay within the guideline that they agreed upon at the start, then I think it can be quite stimulating.

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    1. I think staying within the guidelines would be challenging. Thanks for sharing!

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